{"id":10703,"date":"2025-12-03T23:55:20","date_gmt":"2025-12-03T23:55:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.kabbalah.info\/?post_type=book&#038;p=10703"},"modified":"2025-12-03T23:55:20","modified_gmt":"2025-12-03T23:55:20","slug":"the-need-for-love-of-friends","status":"publish","type":"book","link":"https:\/\/www.kabbalah.info\/en\/the-need-for-love-of-friends\/","title":{"rendered":"The Need for Love of Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Article No. 14, 1988<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are many merits to it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1) It brings one out of self-love and to love of others. It is as Rabbi Akiva said, \u201cLove your friend as yourself is the great rule of the Torah,\u201d since by this he can come to love the Creator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, we should know that loving others or working for the sake of others is&nbsp;<em>not<\/em>&nbsp;the purpose of creation, as the secular understand it. The world was not created for one to do good to another. Rather, the world was created for each one to receive pleasure for himself. Saying that we must work for the sake of others is only the&nbsp;<em>correction<\/em>&nbsp;of creation, not the&nbsp;<em>purpose<\/em>&nbsp;of creation. The correction is that in order to prevent the matter of shame, there was a correction of bestowal, which is the only way for the creatures to receive the complete delight and pleasure for themselves without the flaw of shame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In that regard, we should interpret what&nbsp;<em>The<\/em>&nbsp;<em>Zohar<\/em>&nbsp;says about the verse, \u201c\u2018The mercy of the nations is a sin;\u2019 all the good that they do, they do for themselves.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We can interpret \u201call the good,\u201d meaning the acts of mercy that they do, as referring to their intention, which is called \u201cfor them,\u201d meaning for themselves. This means that it is according to their own understanding and not as we were told to observe, according to \u201clove your friend as yourself,\u201d as a commandment of the Creator, who created the world with the aim to do good to His creations. The&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>&nbsp;[commandments] we were given are only to&nbsp;<em>cleanse people<\/em>, by which they will achieve&nbsp;<em>Dvekut<\/em>&nbsp;[adhesion] with the Creator. This will help them receive delight and pleasure, and they will remain in&nbsp;<em>Dvekut<\/em>&nbsp;with the Creator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2) When the friends unite into a single unit, they receive strength to appreciate the purpose of their work\u2014to achieve&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>&nbsp;[for Her sake]. Also, the rule by which they were brought up is, as Maimonides said, \u201cWomen, children, and uneducated people are taught to work out of fear and to receive reward. Until they gain knowledge and acquire much wisdom, they are taught that secret bit by bit.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And since we must wait \u201cuntil they acquire much wisdom\u201d to tell them that they need to work in&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>, and a great number among the masses naturally remains in&nbsp;<em>Lo Lishma<\/em>&nbsp;[not for Her sake], and since the minority naturally annuls before the majority, when the friends wish to walk on the path that leads to&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>, to avoid annulment before the collective, the friends unite and each one is dedicated to the others. Their aim is&nbsp;<em>to achieve love of the Creator, which is the purpose<\/em>,&nbsp;<em>through the love of others<\/em>, as it is written, \u201cAnd you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It follows that by becoming one collective, although it is a small collective, they are already regarded as a collective, and this collective is not enslaved to the majority of the collective. Thus, they can work on love of friends with the aim to achieve the love of the Creator.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Although the commandment to love your friend as yourself applies to the whole of Israel, the whole of Israel are not walking on the path of coming from love of others to love of the Creator. Also, there is a rule that when people unite they absorb each other\u2019s views, and the matter of&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>\u2014the essential aim of Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>\u2014has not yet been fixed in a man\u2019s heart, meaning that the main intention is that through observing Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>&nbsp;they can achieve&nbsp;<em>Lishma.<\/em>&nbsp;Hence, by bonding with others, the views of the others weaken his view of&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>. For this reason, it is better to serve and to bond with the kind of people who understand that \u201clove your friend as yourself\u201d is only&nbsp;<em>a means to achieve the love of the Creator<\/em>, and not because of self-love, but his whole aim will be to benefit the Creator. Hence, one should be careful in bonding and know with whom one bonds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is the benefit of love of friends in a special group, where&nbsp;<em>everyone has a single goal\u2014to achieve love of the Creator.<\/em>&nbsp;But when bonding with regular people, although they engage in Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>, they are not on the path of achieving the aim to bestow upon the Creator, since they were brought up in order to receive, called&nbsp;<em>Lo Lishma<\/em>. Hence, if they unite with them, they will adopt their views and will say that it is not worthwhile to walk on the path of&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>&nbsp;because&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>&nbsp;is more difficult than&nbsp;<em>Lo Lishma<\/em>, since&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>&nbsp;is against nature. For this reason, one should be careful not to bond with people who have not acquired much wisdom and have not come to know that the essence of the work of the Creator is for the sake of the Creator and not for their own sake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the matter of \u201clove your friend as yourself\u201d applies to the whole of Israel. Yet, we were given the keeping of knowing in advance with whom to bond. The reason is that before a person is rewarded with exiting self-love, he always feels that it is hard. This is because the body resists it, and if he is in an environment of a group of people who are united under one view, that considers the goal and not the work, then his goal will not weaken in him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if he is not always together with his friends, it is very difficult for one to hang on to the goal of bestowal. He needs heaven\u2019s mercy not to weaken in his mind, which previously realized that it was better to work and to walk on the path of the work of bestowal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yet, all of a sudden he gets thoughts that it is better to follow the crowd, that one should not be an exception, although while he was united with the friends he thought differently. It is as we said above: While he is not bonded with the collective of the small group, he immediately surrenders to the collective of the masses and absorbs their views that it is enough to observe Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>&nbsp;in all its details and precisions, and to aim that we are observing the King\u2019s commandment, who commanded us through Moses and through the sages following him. We are content with this, since we will receive reward for this, and we believe in our sages who told us, \u201cYou can trust your landlord to pay you for your work,\u201d and why should we think about anything more than that? As they say, \u201cIf we observe this, we are content.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is as Rabbi Hananiah Ben Akashiah says, \u201cThe Creator wished to cleanse Israel, therefore, He gave them plentiful Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>.\u201d This means that all the Torah and&nbsp;<em>Mitzvot<\/em>&nbsp;we were given are so we may have a great reward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thus, now the person has become smarter than while he was united in the society, when he understood that one simply needs to work for the Creator and not for his own benefit, and should emerge from self-love and be rewarded with&nbsp;<em>Dvekut<\/em>&nbsp;with the Creator. And although he saw that it was difficult to emerge from self-love, he realized that this was a true path, meaning that a person should come to work&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But while he is separated from that society, he immediately falls into the majority view, which is the majority of the world. In other words, the majority of Israel has not yet come to what Maimonides said, \u201cUntil they gain much wisdom, they are taught that secret,\u201d which is the necessity to work&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And when that person enters the society, whose way is that it is necessary to achieve&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>, the question arises, \u201cHow did this person end up in such a place?\u201d We must believe that it came from above.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Accordingly, we should understand why, afterwards, he drifts away from the society. We should say, as Baal HaSulam said, that when a person begins to walk on the path of&nbsp;<em>Lishma<\/em>\u2014and certainly this aim comes to a person who is given an awakening to the path of truth\u2014and afterwards, for some reason, he becomes negligent in this work and relapses to the path of the collective, he asked, \u201cWhy is he not given another awakening from above?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He gave an allegory about this. It is similar to a person who is swimming in the river. Halfway across the river, he grows weak, and a person swimming next to him gives him a push so he will start swimming by himself. The person who is trying to save him gives a few pushes, but if he sees that he is not participating, he leaves him and moves away. Only when he sees that when he pushes him, he begins to swim by himself does he keep pushing him each time until he\u2019s out of danger. But if he is not participating, he leaves him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It is the same in the work. A person receives an awakening from above so he will come to a place where people work knowingly in order to come to bestow contentment upon the Creator. And a person is given several awakenings, but if he does not make an effort to achieve this, he finds excuses for himself and must escape the campaign. Thus, a person remains righteous; that is, by leaving this society, he is always right. And by justifying himself, he truly feels that he is righteous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Therefore,&nbsp;<em>one must cling to the society<\/em>. And since they are united, they are regarded as a collective, too. However, theirs is a big collective, while his society is a small collective. And a collective does not annul before a collective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3) There is a special power in the adhesion of friends. Since the views and thoughts pass from one to the other through the adhesion between them, each is incorporated with the powers of the other, and by that, each one has the power of the whole society. 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