Fairytale Love is Just That – a Fairytale
True love exist only in the spiritual world.
If you think that
finding the love of fairytales will make you happy, think again. The love of
fairytales isn't really love, but the use of others for self satisfaction.
What we normally
call love is the egoistic satisfaction of one person by another, whether it's
sexual satisfaction or any other kind of fulfillment we receive from another
person. And clearly, this isn't love.
Then what is
love? Love is when you don't pay any attention to yourself, but you take the
desires of another person and try to fulfill them in exactly the way they would
like. In other words, you turn yourself into a vessel of fulfillment for the
other person. This is real love, and it exists only in the spiritual world. And
there is no difference if it is a man or a woman - what's important are the
desires, the soul.
In contrast, when
we talk about love in this world, we are really talking about attraction and
pleasure that are brought about by hormones. If we were to disconnect a person
from his hormonal system, he wouldn't be able to feel "love." This again shows
that what we usually think of as love is just an egoistic desire to enjoy.
Sometimes this desire can even be cruel, desiring to receive fulfillment at the
expense of another person.
Hence, the love we read about in fairytales is really an illusion, and does
not exist in reality. It's because all of our desires are based only on the
desire to fulfill ourselves. Even when we give something to others, we do so
only because it gives us pleasure. Our action of giving is meaningless because
what really matters to us while performing that action is what we feel.
* Recommended: If, however, you're interested in fairy tales written in a Kabbalistic spirit, we have one book of these available from Kabbalah Books, called Miracles Can Happen.
Kabbalistic Texts Contain a Unique Quality that Ensures a Successful Partnership
Want to strengthen your relationship? Read Kabbalistic texts together!
There are special Kabbalistic texts that discuss partnership
and togetherness. When a couple reads them together, this greatly reinforces
their spiritual connection, bringing peace and harmony into their home.
When husband and wife spend 15 minutes a day reading
Kabbalistic texts together, this brings a unique quality into their
relationship that has the power to resolve all of the problems they have
between them. It's because these texts contain great power.
Moreover, the only person to whom you can reveal all of your
feelings - is your spouse. It is forbidden (impossible) to speak to anyone
about your deepest feelings and your inner experiences on the spiritual path -
with the exception of your spouse. In sharing their feelings, the husband and
wife complement one another, and together they advance into spirituality.
Today, It's Spiritual Relationship or No Relationship
Relationships without a spiritual connection cannot survive.
Today it is practically impossible for a man and a woman to maintain a good relationship over time, unless there is a spiritual connection between them. It's because their egos clash one against the other and destroy their connection. Today there are countless divorces, and most relationships fall apart, because our egos are "on fire," and they only grow bigger with time. The beautiful verse, "Man, woman, and the Divine Presence between them" - simply does not exist in such couples.
So what does it take to create that spiritual connection between them, the only thing that can remedy their relationship? Having a spiritual connection means that both partners know the reason for their existence - to embark on the spiritual journey and attain the spiritual goal of life. Then they will have something that truly connects them, they will be in a mutual "cell" together, and the verse "Man, woman, and the Divine Presence between them" will really come true. In other words, they will feel the revelation of the Divine Presence - the Creator.
The Woman’s Role in Maintaining a Good Relationship
By praising her man, a woman helps him develop and strengthens their relationship.
Today the divorce rate is astounding and most
relationships are short-lived. Because of this, it is very important for people
to find out how they can maintain a successful marriage.
In order for a woman to understand how to
best fulfill her part of the relationship, she must understand the nature of a
man. Then she will be wise and able to create a lasting and loving relationship.
But how can a woman come to understand a
man's nature? After all, men and women are
so different. In fact, the right understanding can come from the right actions.
A woman should express her appreciation of her man, letting him know that
he is special to her, that he is great - and doing this often! Then
she will realize what he needs from her, and what kind of a connection there
should be between them.
She will see that a man needs motherly care, praise, and admiration.
Despite being masculine, big, and "macho," a man actually has a great need for
sympathy. And if a woman gives this to him, he won't be able to leave
In fact, it's similar to how a woman acts
with a child. She tells him, "You're wonderful, you did such a great job,
you're big, you can do it, you're special, you're the most unique person in the
entire world - you, you, you..." And this makes the man remain with her.
But most importantly, she should do this with
love. A man desires to hear this all the time, because men really are like
children, and they often see a woman as a mother. And even though this kind of
a relationship may seem "imbalanced," it will become balanced out because it
will make the man want to "rise up," to show how great he is. It will awaken his
desire to become greater in a positive way, rather than in an overbearing,
The Spiritual Root of Cheating
Intermixing of male and female qualities at the spiritual level leads to cheating, betrayal and sexual deviations in our world.
Certainly, no one likes being cheated on. But as much as
we'd like to write this unfortunate phenomenon off as "purely animalistic
behavior," in fact there is a spiritual root behind it because every
phenomenon in our world must also exist in the spiritual world. So what is this
spiritual root or reason for our cheating? In Kabbalah, it's called "the
breaking of the vessels."
This means that once, we were all united in one common soul,
but then this common soul broke into many parts. This "breaking of the vessels"
caused all the parts to become integrated in one other, and as a result, each
broken part now contains a female part and a male part. Hence, the male parts
contain female parts and vice versa. We even have each other's hormones!
This intermixing of our qualities is not only the cause of
cheating and betrayal, but also of all the sexual deviations in our world, such
as homosexuality and deviant sexual identity. And these phenomena are evident
in our times more than ever before because we've arrived at the "lowest level" of
discerning the breaking of the vessels.
The male and female parts do not see exactly how they should
interact with one another. In the ideal, spiritual state, the male and female
parts are positioned one against the other - the man opposite the woman. However,
in our state - after the souls broke, descended and became intermixed with one
another - each one took on qualities that belong to others. This is why we desire
different kinds of pleasure from different sources.
However, if we rise above our search for these different
pleasures and aspire for spiritual pleasure, then we will see who is our true
partner on the spiritual path. This brings us to the famous verse, "Man, woman,
and the Divine Presence between them." If one's greatest value in life is
spirituality, then he (or she) will find the right partner in life, his "other
half" who will be together with him on the spiritual path. And together, they
will attain adhesion with the Creator.
In the meantime this may sound utopian because in our
current reality it is difficult for us to see and understand how it can really
happen. But as we continue advancing toward correction and spirituality, we
will understand this more and build a good future filled with trust and