Question By A Student
Question by a Student: But how should I help him?
Answer by Dr. Michael Laitman: In this we will both discover how much we do not think of one another. Then we will be able to move from a personal egoistic calculation - I am feeling bad, to a different kind of calculation - whom am I pleasing, that I am lacking the quality of bestowal. We are yet to have this. The heart is blocked, what will you do? Even in people with a point in the heart from our groups over the world - and I see and feel them - the ear hears, but the heart does not. We need to think more and more about what we can do to change this because no one can succeed on his own: no one, only through the others.
In short, we are in a global trouble; we have reached the global crisis in our group. "Man shall help his friend," and no one can help himself, no one. Only the friends can help - if I receive the feeling of Arvut (mutual guarantee) from them, if I receive from them all the conditions that I need in order to demand, I will attain spirituality. And if they do not help, I will not attain it. What can you do? Pay them, bring them gifts, I do not know. But everything depends on the desire in their heart, on a desire that is concealed from you and you cannot influence it in any way. Therefore everything depends upon agreement, on mutual work, on mutual connection - these are the only things that can lead to it.
We must feel this problem as our greatest inner problem, as trouble that actually threatens our lives. We can compare this to a situation where some problem arises in the family, and everything is dwarfed compared to coping with it.
Everything Depends On Them
I cannot think that I am lacking the quality of bestowal, that I am lacking the feeling of others, that I am lacking the feeling of the Creator as the quality of bestowal within me. I do not think that this is what I am lacking on the inside, that if I feel love of others I will reach "salvation," that the love for others which I feel inside of me is the "salvation." Period. We must try hard, exert efforts, and realize that we are incapable of this. It is called "And the sons of Israel groaned because of the servitude and they cried out."
What can be done? Only the others can help me. Why? Because this is how we are built. If they want me to yearn, to need, to want, to think about bestowal, I will attain it. If I have a point in the heart, my friends, my environment, can influence me through publicity, personal example, their thoughts etc., and cause that suddenly this deficit will form in me. And with this deficit I will already come to the study, to the Creator, to a cry, and to the group.